Last week I asked Twitter their thoughts on the “90 Day Rule” and I received different responses including “it’s childish” and “it’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of in my life.” For those reading this that may be unfamiliar with the 90 day rule; it is when a female withholds sexual relations with a male she’s interested in for this allotted time.
The reasoning is that if a guy respects you and is genuinely interested in you, he will be okay with no sex for 90 days. This rule does nothing, but simply allows a “hoe” to feel as if she’s accomplishing something meaningful. The point is that men will respect a female that’s real about what she wants and what she’s willing to do to get it, without being overbearing or too forward. For example, I know a good friend of mine who had sex with her current boyfriend of multiple years in the first week.
If a female hits a guy with the 90 day rule, 8.5 out of 10 times he is getting his nut from another source. Hate to break it to you, but you are only providing 80 percent of what he needs, and while he may enjoy it, best believe that 20 percent is getting fulfilled elsewhere.
Honestly, my advice is to not even tell a guy that you are implementing the rule. We as guys are too competitive, all we’ll do is try and get in your pants in less than 90 days, and the guys who cannot cut it will give up. Now, let me say that I do not think that if a guy gives up on you before the 90 days is up that he had savage intentions. I simply think that he just realized he could get some from a female in a less amount of time. However, if he sticks around that’s a solid indicator that he might actually be in it for more.
The rule should not be about if the guy can last 90 days, but more so can a female remain desirable and wanted for 90 days without spreading her legs. There aren’t too many females who can watch sports, drink a brew, do what the guy enjoys and still have quality sex appeal.
Ladies, make the 90 day rule about showing that you are actually sexier because of other things than your looks. If you are doing the 90 day rule to test him, then you have failed. You are putting your worth in someone else’s hands and that is a dangerous thing to do. The rule serves no purpose.
If you would like to respond feel free to tweet or email me. Until next week, keep your finances and emotions in order.
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